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Bed Rotting: The Self-Care Myth You Need to Know About

Updated: Jun 17

Bed rotting isn't the self-care practice social media claims it is. In fact, this trending coping mechanism could be worsening your depression and anxiety.


Living in a hustle culture that demands constant productivity has left many of us burned out and desperate for relief. While staying in bed all day might seem like a harmless way to reset, it often creates a dangerous cycle of avoidance and self-shame. What feels like escape ends up making you feel more stuck.


When Rest Becomes a Trap


There’s nothing wrong with needing a break. But when your day disappears into endless scrolling and lying in bed, that break can backfire. It doesn’t replenish your mental energy; it drains it. Your brain isn’t nourished by stimulation or engagement. Instead, it sits idle, leaving space for negative thoughts to take over.


If you’ve ever laid in bed all day hoping to feel better, only to feel worse later, that’s not a failure; it’s a sign this method isn’t working for you. And that’s okay. You’re not broken. You just need a better approach.


Here are six simple strategies to break free from the bed rotting cycle.


1. Stop Shaming Yourself


Shame is fuel for avoidance. The more you beat yourself up for how you're coping, the more likely you are to stay stuck. Validate what you’re experiencing, whether it’s work stress, health issues, or mental illness. There’s a reason you’re overwhelmed. Understanding that helps more than any amount of self-criticism ever could.


2. Set a Screen Time Limit


Most bed rotting isn’t just resting; it often leads to excessive screen time. Set a hard limit on your phone or TV use to create a boundary. Use built-in app timers or sleep settings to nudge you into transition. You’re not cutting yourself off; you’re protecting your energy.


3. Use the 90/30 Rule


Give yourself permission to do nothing for 90 minutes. Then, get up and do something for 30 minutes. That something doesn’t have to be productive; it just needs to be different. Stretch. Wash a dish. Step outside. Repeat as needed. Over time, you'll feel the balance shift.


4. Try Opposite to Emotion


When you instinctively want to withdraw, try doing the opposite. This approach, drawn from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), helps disrupt patterns that can feed depression or anxiety. If lying down feels like your only option, standing up and completing one small task can be a powerful counter-move.


5. Set Small, Meaningful Goals


Zero goals lead to zero momentum. On tough days, scale back from nothing to something light and manageable. A shower, a short walk, or journaling for five minutes can be effective. These actions activate the reward center in your brain and remind you that you’re still showing up.


6. Stay Connected, Even a Little


Total isolation deepens emotional pain. Even if people contribute to your stress, connection still matters. A quick text, a phone call, or even a shared meme can remind you that you’re not alone and that someone out there sees you.


You’re Not Failing—You’re Figuring It Out


You’re doing what you can with what you’ve got. That matters. This isn’t about hustle or perfection; it’s about breaking the cycles that keep you stuck and building new ones that lead to stability, connection, and true self-care.


I'll walk you through six practical strategies to break free from bed-rotting habits in the video below. Learn how to create healthy rest patterns and rediscover your mental wellness without falling into the trap of toxic productivity.



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